Sorry...

Sorry to keep you all waiting. Sorry but can I just add my opinion. Sorry, it took me a little time to find the right solution.

Sound familiar?

Women apologise. We apologise for everything – for being late, being early, causing pain, not causing pain, making you accountable, not making you accountable, taking our time with things, not taking our time with things…

We apologise for everything!!

Why?

A while ago, I had a conversation that stuck with me… I rang up a business to respond to a query they had. When the receptionist answered I asked to speak to Cassandra. “No problem, hang on please’. Off she went for a minute or so, then “hi, I’m so sorry, I won’t be a minute’. “no problem” I replied. Another minute “won’t be long, sorry”. ‘All good I replied”. Then another minute later… “hi again, sorry, we just moved buildings, and I can’t find the extension numbers for people, won’t be long. I’m so sorry to keep you waiting”.

Then I hear, slightly muffled, “John, do you have the extension number for Cassandra? I’m so sorry to be a pain, but can you please help me find it? Sorry”.

Then ‘Thanks for your patience, putting you through now”.

Then I get onto Cassandra, we talk about what she needs, I say no problem, leave it with me. She says, “Thank you, and I’m so sorry to bother you with this”.

Were they bothering me? No. Was I upset / annoyed / angry / hurt that the phone call took 5 minutes and not 3? No. Would they have apologised if they were men? No.

When I, lightly, said to Cassandra “Isn’t it interesting that everyone has apologised this morning, and really there’s no need to – a man wouldn’t have. She said, “True! We just do it automatically; we need to unlearn it”. Yes, we do Cassandra. Yes, we do.

‘Thanks for your patience’. ‘The new system has me floored, I appreciate you bearing with me”. “I won’t be a minute”. All these answers are polite and acceptable. And human!! We are all human! Women aren’t a different breed of human… well, yes, we are… we’re actually superhuman! Which is even more reason to show up fully, in our unapologetic form.

As a Mum, I am role modelling for my daughters and have been since the day they were born. So, when they see me shrink, dim my light, apologise for the behaviour of others, overcompensate for the under delivery of others… they think this is normal, this is what I’m meant to do, how I’m meant to behave as a woman. Dad doesn’t do that, but Mum does, so this is what’s expected. And they DO!!! By the time I learnt that shrinking myself for the benefit of others was NOT ok, they had already learned this behaviour.

So, now I’m here to show them, and you, that we were put on this earth to rise. To grow, to glow, to realise our worth, and stand in it like the goddesses we are.

So, here’s the truth: we don’t need to apologise for our presence. For our time. For our brilliance. For speaking up. For taking space.

Every “sorry” we let go is a small reclaiming of our energy, our rhythm, our voice. Every unapologetic step we take is a lesson for the women around us — our daughters, our sisters, our circles.

We rise. We glow. We stand fully in our worth. We are the goddesses we were born to be.

And that, my sisters, is the work of The Company of Her. The remembering. The return. The unapologetic rise.
I am here to support women to rediscover their light and shine with brilliant intensity. If you feel called, I’d love to hold space for you.

With love, and goddess light
Nat 🤍